Would you call your relationship "the true and genuine love" you've been looking for? Your partner manages to respect all the points? And, just as important: so are you?
We asked you what he is to you true love, because it is probably a subjective concept and we all have a different idea of it: is it the love that lasts a lifetime or the love that makes you "vibrate"? and excite for a while, accepting that it may also have an end? Whatever your opinion on the matter, today we decided to propose you 10 points that, from our point of view, are important10 clues to watch out for. Far be it from us to offer "obtuse" or falsely universal definitions: we just want to propose that you reflect on what you are offering in your relationship and what you are receiving. In short: it can be a great exercise to understand on which points it would be appropriate to work!
Remember: Genuine, authentic love is not synonymous with emotional dependence. On the contrary, it implies the freedom to confide in each other, to truly be yourself and to accept the other person with their qualities and faults. Unhealthy jealousy has no place in true love. Obviously, everyone has their own definition of a "perfect relationship", so it also depends on you and the interpretation you give to your relationship.
So, what is genuine love?
1. It makes you feel good
Even on difficult days, after a conversation with him / her, you can see the problems from a different perspective. He always knows how to make you feel better when you're sad.
2. You can be yourself
He has seen you in your best moments, but also in your worst, and has not changed his opinion of you. You're not afraid that he'll see you in the morning as soon as you wake up or hear you snore.
3. There is no jealousy in your relationship
There is no jealousy. Or at least: There is not that unhealthy and pathological jealousy, That ends up making relationships toxic. He trusts you. Doesn't get mad at you when someone looks at you or tries to get your attention. Keeps calm because he knows he can trust you. Doesn't make a scene when you decide to go out with your friends and respects your space.
4. Respect your privacy
The mutual trust that characterizes your relationship doesn't make you want to go through each other's wallets, emails or social networks when they're not there. If this temptation has occurred to you, you should ask yourself some questions.
5. He never forgets about you, on the contrary!
He does things for you that, perhaps, he wouldn't do for anyone else. Attention is crucial in a relationship, and in yours there is no shortage of it! When we talk about attention, we're referring to those small, free gestures that give us the measure of how important you are to the other person.
6. He is always there in times of need
Your partner is always with you when you need him/her most, without having to ask for. And you particularly appreciate this aspect because it makes you feel loved.
7. Appreciate what is important to you
The things that are important to you are not up for discussion: he respects them and supports you! When you say you want to run a marathon in another city, he doesn't ask if he should accompany you, he tells you that he will wait for you at the finish line. Obviously, you should have the same attitude. The key is sharing!
8. He is proud of you
It makes you feel how valuable you are and always encourages you when you need encouragement!
9. Words are not enough
You can't literally say "I love you" more often than you do, or you can't demonstrate it with actions and gestures more than that. And no matter how many times you say it or show it, it's never enough compared to what you feel. He/she strives to make you fall in love in a different way every day!
10. Knows how to calm certain situations
When things go wrong or when you argue, try to calm you down by leading you to focus on the solution rather than the problem. So, if you disagree on something, he/she is more concerned with making the discussion healthy and productive rather than being right.
Remember that all these points should be mutual! Which ones are present and which ones are not in your relationship? We hope we have been able to offer you some food for thought!
Would you call your relationship "the true and genuine love" you've been looking for? Your partner manages to respect all the points? And, just as important: so are you?
We asked you what he is to you true love, because it is probably a subjective concept and we all have a different idea of it: is it the love that lasts a lifetime or the love that makes you "vibrate"? and excite for a while, accepting that it may also have an end? Whatever your opinion on the matter, today we decided to propose you 10 points that, from our point of view, are important10 clues to watch out for. Far be it from us to offer "obtuse" or falsely universal definitions: we just want to propose that you reflect on what you are offering in your relationship and what you are receiving. In short: it can be a great exercise to understand on which points it would be appropriate to work!
Remember: Genuine, authentic love is not synonymous with emotional dependence. On the contrary, it implies the freedom to confide in each other, to truly be yourself and to accept the other person with their qualities and faults. Unhealthy jealousy has no place in true love. Obviously, everyone has their own definition of a "perfect relationship", so it also depends on you and the interpretation you give to your relationship.
So, what is genuine love?
1. It makes you feel good
Even on difficult days, after a conversation with him / her, you can see the problems from a different perspective. He always knows how to make you feel better when you're sad.
2. You can be yourself
He has seen you in your best moments, but also in your worst, and has not changed his opinion of you. You're not afraid that he'll see you in the morning as soon as you wake up or hear you snore.
3. There is no jealousy in your relationship
There is no jealousy. Or at least: There is not that unhealthy and pathological jealousy, That ends up making relationships toxic. He trusts you. Doesn't get mad at you when someone looks at you or tries to get your attention. Keeps calm because he knows he can trust you. Doesn't make a scene when you decide to go out with your friends and respects your space.
4. Respect your privacy
The mutual trust that characterizes your relationship doesn't make you want to go through each other's wallets, emails or social networks when they're not there. If this temptation has occurred to you, you should ask yourself some questions.
5. He never forgets about you, on the contrary!
He does things for you that, perhaps, he wouldn't do for anyone else. Attention is crucial in a relationship, and in yours there is no shortage of it! When we talk about attention, we're referring to those small, free gestures that give us the measure of how important you are to the other person.
6. He is always there in times of need
Your partner is always with you when you need him/her most, without having to ask for. And you particularly appreciate this aspect because it makes you feel loved.
7. Appreciate what is important to you
The things that are important to you are not up for discussion: he respects them and supports you! When you say you want to run a marathon in another city, he doesn't ask if he should accompany you, he tells you that he will wait for you at the finish line. Obviously, you should have the same attitude. The key is sharing!
8. He is proud of you
It makes you feel how valuable you are and always encourages you when you need encouragement!
9. Words are not enough
You can't literally say "I love you" more often than you do, or you can't demonstrate it with actions and gestures more than that. And no matter how many times you say it or show it, it's never enough compared to what you feel. He/she strives to make you fall in love in a different way every day!
10. Knows how to calm certain situations
When things go wrong or when you argue, try to calm you down by leading you to focus on the solution rather than the problem. So, if you disagree on something, he/she is more concerned with making the discussion healthy and productive rather than being right.
Remember that all these points should be mutual! Which ones are present and which ones are not in your relationship? We hope we have been able to offer you some food for thought!